My hair has been chemically treated since I was 6 or 7. Whether it was a relaxer or that time of temporary insanity where I rocked the Jheri Curl. 9 months ago I decided to let go of the mask that I had created with my hair. Even after I made that decision I had a hard time accepting my natural hair, so I wore quick weaves and wigs.

I am now at the point where I’m ready to embrace myself and my natural beauty, including my natural hair. The one thing that I’m terrified of is “The Big Chop”. The Big Chop is when you cut off the relaxed part of your hair so your hair is all natural. I’ve been trying to wait a year before the big chop, but I honestly have no idea what to do with my hair right now. I don’t think I’ll know what to do after the Big Chop either. A part of me wants to just grab a Dark and Lovely and call it a wrap.

So sistas, in styling advice for transitioning hair? Any styling advice for all natural hair? Any words of encouragement for when I grow a pair and go ahead with the big chop? I’d appreciate any advice.